Adoptions for challenging children are not always successful when conducted in the traditional way of a committee matching family and child and making the placement. After observing many failed adoptions, Jasper Mountain developed an alternative method that puts the focus on the relationships and commitments before moving to adoption. This article explains the principles of this model which gives the child a voice and levels the playing field for the child. This model has increased positive outcomes for adoptions with challenging children over the last two decades. (6 pages)