If you are a foster or adoptive parent, congratulations on being a hero to someone who needs you. However, if you feel like the more you work to get close to your child, the harder the child works to keep you distant, then join the club. This short article covers why a bond between parent and child is essential for the child’s future social success. It goes one step further and covers the four essential steps to developing a bond with a child who pushes away adults. Never give up trying but make sure you are taking the right steps to achieve success. (4 pages)